Rewrite Your Sticky Notes: Fostering Intentional Optimism

So many of us go through life every day feeling like we have little control over what happens to us. Planes get delayed, kids get sick, and we find ourselves frustrated, stressed, and generally unhappy. And while we may not be able to stop travel delays or illnesses, Joe Fried believes that we do have control over how we respond to these situations.

Joe has been challenging his pre-conceived notions about how the world works and how we should respond to the people we encounter every day. Not only has this helped him to become calmer and happier in his personal life, but he is also bringing these ideas to his work in the courtroom. Joe is among the top truck accident lawyers in the country, and has, in fact, been named Trucking Trial Lawyer of the Year.

This week, we’re delighted to welcome Joe back to the podcast to talk about how the work he’s doing in his personal life translates to his success in trial. We reexamine the assumptions we make every day, discuss the power of empathy, and dig into the work Joe is doing to help empower women in the legal field.

Key takeaways:

  • Everything works out okay in the end. Even things that may be painful or frightening in the moment will eventually become something you can move past and accept as part of your path. Spending time worrying about whether something will work out okay is just wasted energy. 
  • You can control your beliefs and outlook on the world. Many of us feel like we don’t have any control over the things that shape the way we view the world. But you can make a conscious choice to change your preconceptions and shift how you view a situation.
  • Being a good lawyer doesn’t always mean being tough. Oftentimes, lawyers — especially women — feel like they have to present a front of being tough, badass, and no-nonsense. But being empathetic, vulnerable, and even emotional in front of a jury can sometimes help you get a better result for your client.